Dating Apps: Information Exchange Platforms, but Are We Asking the Right Questions About Safety?
At their core, dating apps are platforms designed to facilitate information exchange — a place where we share snippets of our lives, preferences, and desires, all in the hope of finding someone compatible.
But here's the thing: information isn't just about shared hobbies or interests. One of the most critical pieces of data you should extract from these platforms is information about safety — both physical and psychological.
Safety isn't just about avoiding physical harm, though that's undeniably important. It's also about mental and emotional well-being. Does this platform create an environment that supports healthy communication, mutual respect, and genuine connections? Are there clear boundaries around consent, and how are users’ mental health and well-being prioritized?
As you navigate the world of online dating, it’s essential to ask:
Your agency is key: You get to decide what information you share and when. Don’t feel pressured to share personal details before you're ready. Your pace is yours to control.
Ask the right questions to feel secure: Before agreeing to meet in person, ask questions that help you assess comfort and trust. Are you satisfied with their responses? Are you feeling safe with the information they’re offering?
Stay mindful of psychological safety: Does the person respect your boundaries? Are they being respectful in terms of how they communicate with you? Trust your instincts and take the time you need to ensure emotional safety.
Ensure physical safety in your decisions: Are you comfortable with where and how you’ll meet in person? Can you check in with trusted friends or family beforehand? You have the right to make safety the priority in every interaction.
What actions can I take to protect myself from harmful interactions? Am I able to block or report users easily, and are there safety resources available within the app if needed?
Am I in control of the pace? Are we moving at a speed that feels comfortable, and do I have the power to stop the conversation or meeting at any time if things feel off?
It's crucial to use the information provided on dating apps, but even more important to demand transparency around safety measures. Remake The Rules can help you navigate the complexities of online dating with a focus on making intentional, values-driven choices — because the most important connection is to your own safety.
