Imagine being dropped into a high-powered commercial kitchen and asked to prepare a five-course gourmet meal. Around you are dozens of high-tech appliances you’ve never used, industrial quantities of ingredients you don’t recognize, and a recipe you barely understand. Oh, and the meal needs to be ready in an hour.

Most of us would be overwhelmed, confused, maybe even panicked. And if what we managed to produce was far from five-stars? That would make sense. Most of us haven’t built the skills to prepare anything very advanced. The expectations are off. The tools are unfamiliar. And the gap between what we’re being asked to create and what we know how to do is massive.

You’d probably fail—because you weren’t prepared for this kitchen.

Now imagine this: what if I told you this is exactly how many people are trying to make life decisions today? We rarely stumble into a commercial kitchen by accident—but more and more, we do find ourselves making some of our most important life decisions in unfamiliar, high-powered information environments. 

Everyone’s had that conversation: “What do you want for dinner?” “I don’t know, what do you want?” “Anything’s fine.” “Okay, how about Thai?” “Ugh, not in the mood for Thai.”

It’s a minor friction most of us have encountered hundreds of times—two people, trying to make one small decision together. But even something as simple as dinner can reveal a lot about how collaboration breaks down.

Dating apps won’t solve your love life—but they can absolutely help you make smarter, more aligned decisions.

Dating apps offer access—not guarantees. Algorithms are trained on user behavior, not your unique emotional needs. When you rely on an app to "just work," you’re outsourcing critical thinking.

Instead: Start using apps as an information exchange platform.

Every profile, prompt, and conversation is a chance to learn what energizes you, what drains you, and what patterns keep repeating.

Our Choices Make Us—The People We Become and the Lives We Live.

From this perspective, there is no endeavor more important than making good choices: freely, intentionally, and with the resources to do so. Yet, making choices has never been simple, and as our world evolves, so too must our approach to decision-making.

As we welcome the Lunar New Year, it’s a time to reflect on the traditions, stories, and frameworks that help us make sense of ourselves and the world around us. One such framework—astrology—is more than a set of predictions; it’s a fascinating example of social technology.

If the goal of Remake The Rules is to offer a better way forward for people feeling overwhelmed, constrained, and misunderstood by our increasingly pervasive human-techno systems, then addressing both personal and professional aspects is essential. These systems shape how we make decisions, form relationships, and navigate the questions that define our lives—and ignoring either would limit the impact and relevance of this work.